What It’s Like to Live a Life After Death of Marriage

Saying goodbye to marriage is a major life-changing event that most former couples don’t arrive at casually. Sure it won’t be easy at first. You may feel lonely and worried about how to start over and live a life where it’s only about you and your kids anymore.  

But living a single life doesn't mean that you can't strive alone. There are still plenty of good things about life after divorce and you just have to appreciate them. After all, your life after divorce depends on how you live it. So if you're scared to live a single life again, let me show you reasons why life after divorce is actually great.

You get your freedom back.

People tend to lose their freedom when they get married. Mainly because everything becomes shared especially when it comes to budgeting,  income management, and (of course) decision-making. But I have to congratulate you now that you have the schedule of a single person once again. After going through a difficult situation, here's a little reward for you: your freedom. This way lets you do things you couldn't do when you were married like going on a trip with your friends, shopping and doing groceries whenever you want, and not worrying about how your decisions might affect your partner. Sounds a huge sigh of relief, right?

You gain some peace of mind.

You've surely spent so many days trying to make your marriage work, worrying about how people will react about your failed marriage, and discussing a lot of things with your family lawyer.  But once the papers are signed, the pressure is gone and you'll be happy to say that it's all over. And instead of regretting a perfect relationship, you focus on having a great one with yourself and your children because that's all that matters now.

You sleep a lot better.    

Sleeping alone might be a difficult adjustment especially when you get used to having someone next to you. But now is the best time to set your own sleep routine because no one is there to steal your side of the bed, pillows, and blankets again. You can sleep earlier and let your child or your pup sleep up beside you.  

You say goodbye to toxic in-laws.

Not everyone but some people may always have issues with their in-laws. Good news: the moment you lose your connection with your ex is the same moment your in-laws have nothing to do with you. So getting along with your ex's parents or family won't be a problem anymore.

You spend more time with your kids.

If in case the custody of your children belongs to you and your ex doesn't show up, think of it as an opportunity to focus on being a better parent for your kids. You stand as a father and a mother at the same time and that's something you can be proud of. And the time you used to spend with your ex is now spent with your kids so it's going to be more fun times together.   

You get to focus on yourself again.

It's all about you now. Not your wife, not your husband. You. And it should be the best part because after all the days of negativity, hopelessness, and fear, you deserve nothing but happiness. So take this time as a chance to focus on yourself, rediscover your old interests, and find joy in everything that's left. You may start dating again in the future but make sure to date yourself first.